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Why do I find it so easy not to cheat?

Maybe I’m not very attractive, so my options are limited. Maybe I’m too jaded to go for the cheating opportunities. Maybe I still have some mental wounds lingering from when my dad temporarily moved out because he had met another woman. Maybe I’m too afraid that I’ve reached my sin quotient and one more big sin will keep me out of heaven.

Cheating is not a caught in the moment thing if you are really into your significant other, you miss them when you are not with them, you don’t look for a way to hurt or deceive them.

I am just now patching up a friendship with someone I was seeing while they had a boyfriend (that may make me a cheater). At different points she told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend, that they were back together, and that he was boring and I was fun. It was total confusion.

I told her she wasn’t being fair to herself, me, or him.

Finally, she said, “you just don’t understand, there are things you don’t know.” Thing is she’s been cheating on him for a couple of years with different guys, and he keeps taking her back.

So, are cheaters born cheaters, or do certain situations cause people to cheat? Probably a little bit of both. Here are some situations that make people cheat:

1. Bored
I’d say this is the most common reason that people cheat.It’s tough to keep that edge throughout a relationship. Things start off grand and then level off and then you both realize that it’s still real life. When you meet someone else, that inaugural excitement of a new relationship kicks back in.

2. Dependence
At first glance, cheating seems like independent behavior. It could be interpreted as doing what you want, when you want. But I would argue that cheating is a dependent behavior. A cheater is dependent because they are not strong enough to break up with their significant other in order to get with the new person.

3. Confusion
Sometimes life or a particular situation can get to you. When the perfect storm of confusion is going on in your head, you make mistakes.

4. Because They Let You
If any girl ever cheated on me, I’d break up with her immediately. Forgiving a cheater is putting up with it, and starts a vicious cycle. That person who cheated may lose respect for you and might continue to cheat-because they know they can get away with it, because you’ll continue to take them back.

5. Nurturing
If someone is mistreating you, then your first instinct is to get away from him or her. But sometimes it’s not that simple-maybe you are raising kids together. If you feel trapped in a bad relationship, it’s only natural that you will run to the open arms of a person who treats you well.

6. Revenge
This is quite simple- an eye for an eye. Cheat on them if they cheat on you. If they continuously hurt you or abuse you in some way, you do it to get them back.

7. Confirmation of Attractiveness
Sometimes when you’re in a long relationship, or if your significant other is taking you for granted, you begin to wonder if you’re still attractive. Perhaps, because you were out on the dating circuit, you felt more attractive when you were single. If you have an affair, you’ve proven that a new person can be attracted to you.

8. The Thrill
Some people just enjoy the thrill of cheating: running around secretly, risking getting caught, and creating thrilling moments with a forbidden romance.

9. They Don’t Consider It Cheating, Even Though You Might
Relationships have that grey area, usually right before you become exclusive. He thinks date #4 is when you’re “together,” and you think date #2 is when you’re “together.” If you haven’t talked about exclusivity, someone may think they are well within their rights to see other people, even though the other person in the relationship may not.

I don’t understand why people don’t break up as soon as they have an urge to cheat. Is it natural to have temptation, or is temptation a sign that the relationship is losing its fire? What reasons would you add to this list, and do you disagree with any? If you’ve ever cheated, why did you do it? Could you forgive a cheater? If you are single, but seeing a person who is in a committed relationship, does that make you a cheater?

Source: M Claire & R Santos

Times have changed.  The days of Rhett Butler telling Scarlett O’Hara he didn’t give a damn are long gone.  That’s a shame in some ways. At least it made dating simple.  Nowadays, guys try to be considerate in an attempt to not hurt your feelings.  His miscues make it hard to know whether he’s really into you, just wants to be friends or would love for you to switch phone plans.  While words might not be his strong point, his actions are.  Keep an eye out for these kinds of behavior.

1. He actively takes an interest in you and what you have to say. He’s not just nodding and smiling and checking his watch every five minutes like you’re trying to sell him life insurance.  There’s eye contact.  He’s actively listening.  He’s asking questions, relating things you say to his own experiences.  If he’s really good, he’ll remember something you said and incorporate it in a future date. Try not to act too surprised.
2. He’s forthcoming.  He wants you to know about him.  This manifests itself in a bunch of ways.  He’ll share personal details about himself.  He’ll even be eager to cough up basic factoids such as phone numbers, his address and place of work.  If he isn’t giving up this kind of info, then he doesn’t want you tracking him down — or he’s Batman or Superman.  So if he doesn’t live at Wayne Manor or the Fortress of Solitude, give it up.
3. He’ll mark his territory. He won’t pee on you or anything per se, but he will exhibit some animal behavior.  If he’s decided he wants you as his female, he won’t want to lose you.  If there’s any chance that you might be snapped up by another male, he’ll stake his claim.  He’ll be tactile with you, slipping an arm around you, possibly posturing and standing up when another guy walks onto the scene.  Watch out for some regression to a more primitive man.  If you hear grunting, don’t panic.  It’s his way of saying he likes you.
4. He calls you back. Despite the stereotype, he will call you back.  If you’re a girl in demand, he won’t want you to be the one that got away, so he’ll call you to set up the next date or ask how you’re doing.  If you’re getting calls for no reason, that’s a good thing. However, you may want to invest in a good phone plan.
5. He’ll check you out. You’ll bring out his spy skills in a good way.  He’ll talk to your friends to get the 411 on you.  He wants to know more about you — your past, your present, your likes and dislikes, water hazards, etc.  He’s doing his homework because he wants to impress you.  He’s gathering this intelligence so he knows how best to woo you.
6. He’s flirtatious. Guys get playful around women they like.  It’s a little dance he’s doing around you to show his interest and his daring.  However, he’s not just being flirty, he’s also probing.  He’s putting on a little show for you to see if you’ll reciprocate.  The more you play, the more he stays.  Now shake that tail feather.
7. He’s always planning ahead. If he digs you, he won’t want you getting away from him.  To make sure you aren’t prey to some other guy, he’ll be making plans for the next date before the current one is over.  A full calendar is a good sign.
8. He’s attentive. He’s been listening to you, and knows what you like and where you like to go.  He treats you to your favorite things and places.  He’ll spring surprises.
9. He’ll blow off his buddies to be with you. It’s always tricky managing existing commitments with burgeoning relationships.  There are bound to be conflicts of interest at the some point.  So take it as a good sign when he’ll ditch going out with the boys to see you instead.
10. Acts of selflessness. He’ll take one for the team of you and him.  These can be large or small acts.  They can be as small as holding your hair back for when you’ve got stomach flu, or as large as suffering through a Celine Dion concert and pretend he’s enjoying it because you’re a fan.  Now “that’s the power of love.”

Okay, he’s doing his part, but what about you?  You’ve got him wrapped around your little finger, but don’t get cocky.  You can lose him in the blink of an eye with a few classic screw-ups …

Source: S Oaks - Continue reading “He Likes Me — Doesnt He?”

I’m adding this category so I will blog and share some interesting articles that I read on the net.

Enjoy!

Front - see my WHITE EGG???

Side - slim

Back - description and details

Yay! FINALLY I got my EGG MOUSE - M-Egur by Elecom! I havent used it yet … guess will keep it for later. Planning on using it with my iMac … or maybe replace my Mighty Mouse … it sucks cuz the speed is urrgghhhhhhh nerve-wrecking. The only kewl thing about the Mighty Mouse is that it is bluetooth. Otherwise, performance is *thumbs down*

A few of my friends have approached me by asking me tips about losing weight and how to go about getting a loan for themselves. Well … OH WELL … actually those many articles I wrote about weight loss and/ or getting a loan are just part of my side “job”. Yep, I write articles - blog ads - for companies. But I didnt know I made myself sound SO REAL to them.

I feel guilty sometimes - yep ONLY sometimes - because it sound like I have misled them. For those of you who had approached me or was shocked I had to go on a diet with those diet pills … I’ve gotta say it’s just part of my “job”. So if you read anything that’s SURREAL … feel free to ask me if it’s an ad. I’d gladly let you know.

Listening - Little Wonders by Rob Thomas on Disney Channel (Astro 615)

Yay! Went to Low Yat again to find myself gagging with excitement as I saw the Western Digital My Passport Essential.

Hehe can you see the image on the laptop??? That’s the pix of me holding the unopened box!

The reason I got it is because it’s light and has a large storage capacity. Data is also protected with 128-bit encryption. I’m using it mainly for storing pix and music when I travel with my lappie. It comes with many colors including my once loved pink and white. I was very tempted to get the white one but decided to get the silver one upon thinking how obvious dirt is on a white surface. Anyway, not a wrong choice after all since it goes with my lappie. Price wise varies from shop to shop. So you gotta have ample time to hop from one dealer to another @ Plaza Low Yat.

Oh yeah did I tell ya that I was so tempted to get the My Passport Studio just because it has a firewire port? LOL … nah I dont need that. Prolly hubby needs =D

Goes pretty well with my lappie. Kewl I love it!

go to htp://wdc.com to check it out!

I’m so tired tired tired. Every nite when it comes to this time, I would doze off with my lappie on. I seriously need to sleep before 5am. And I have.

Havent done much today except gone to pick up my Sony Ericsson W595i. I got the Cosmopolitan White. Quite a nice color. I was kinda tempted to get the Pink one but nahhhhhh … who knows I might wanna get rid of it later at huuto.net huh. Then I cant target on the male market HAHAHAHAHA … yeah fucced up.

Anyway will try to post it up soon.

I am heading off to bed.

I am so angry cuz my W580i is acting up. It wont ring. It wont call. I get the “inactive sim” message very often. When I press a function, it doesnt go to it instead go to another. I am so upset. That means I have to spend unnecessary money to have it replaced before it’s totally gone and I cant have it traded in for some cash. The problem is I cant sell it and just get the money. I have to trade it in for another phone.

Currently, I’m checking on W595i but I really dont want to spend so much on a phone because I have already a few good ones. SO basically I just need a less hi-tech phone to replace it. I was walking in the mall today and came across K810i which I very much wanted to get two years ago. I am glad it’s still around LOL. But it’s not any cheaper. Prolly RM150 cheaper than W595i.

Lord tell me which should I get?!

K810i

W595i

My W580i

Asus F8vr

Seen here with my Acer Aspire One which I got during Xmas

Loving every bit of my Asus. It’s my new baby and it’s replacing my AGING Compaq.

Sony Ericsson C902i and W890i

Seen here with my SE W580i which I got last Spring

I gave my W580i to my bro so now I am left with Nokia N93, SE Z520i, C902i, W890i, W580i and Panasonic A210.